Bonita Carmel smiling brightly while holding her phone—capturing her joyful, grounded energy and passion for helping ambitious women reconnect with their true selves.

My Story

I didn’t always feel comfortable in my own skin. For years, I battled self-doubt, perfectionism, and the constant feeling that I just wasn’t “good enough.” I believed that if I could only be better—smarter, fitter, more successful—then maybe I’d finally be worthy of love and acceptance.

But the more I chased perfection, the further I felt from true happiness. I was constantly striving to become who I thought I should be, instead of embracing who I truly was. This inner conflict slowly began to take a toll on my mental and emotional well-being—and I knew something had to change.

My turning point came through studying psychology. I’ve always been fascinated by human behaviour and the incredible capacity we have for growth and change. When I discovered Abraham Maslow’s concept of self-actualisation, something clicked. The idea that we all have an innate drive to become the most authentic version of ourselves—to live with purpose and alignment—deeply resonated with me.

A woman with dark hair and gold jewelry sitting on a gray couch, holding a small brown dog with white markings.

I became obsessed (in the best way!) with understanding the power of the mind and how our thoughts shape the way we experience the world. Why do some people rise above their challenges and thrive, while others stay stuck in cycles of self-doubt? How can small shifts in mindset lead to radical transformation?

These questions became my passion. I went on to conduct research into human motivation and locus of control—exploring how our beliefs about control and agency influence our actions and resilience. This deepened my understanding of what drives us and, more importantly, what holds us back.

Over time, I pursued qualifications in occupational therapy, NLP, health coaching, and cognitive behavioural therapy—gaining a holistic view of how our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours are deeply connected. At the same time, I began my own journey of self-discovery—seeking out mentors, resources, and practices that helped me let go of perfectionism and embrace the healing power of self-acceptance.

This transformation wasn’t easy—but it has been incredibly freeing. As I learned to accept myself—flaws and all—I began to experience more peace, confidence, and joy like never before.

That’s when I knew: I wanted to help others experience the same.

Work with me

Over time, I realised that whilst therapy often focuses on healing from the past, coaching empowers people to move forward with intention and purpose — to create the kind of future they truly want. I knew this was what I wanted to dedicate my time to: helping others shift their mindset, overcome self-doubt, and build a life they genuinely love. And that’s exactly what I’m here to offer you.

Today, my mission is simple! To help you shift your mindset, overcome self-doubt, and build a life rooted in confidence, clarity, and deep self-compassion.

As a coach, I bring together the science of psychology, evidence-based techniques, and a heartfelt belief in your potential. This isn’t just my career—it’s my calling. It’s been shaped by years of learning, growth, and a deep desire to see others rise into their most authentic, empowered selves.

You don’t need to become someone else to feel better. Working with me means having steady, compassionate support to understand yourself more deeply and make changes without pressure or self-judgement. This is the kind of work we will focus on together.

My Experience & Credentials

A neat stack of books with soft white flowers resting on top—symbolising the blend of professional expertise and compassionate care in Bonita Carmel’s coaching practice

I’m a BABCP Accredited cognitive behavioural therapist, certified Health Coach and NLP Practitioner.

  • PGDip in Evidence-based Psychological Treatment (CBT)

  • MSc in Occupational Therapy

  • Certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach

  • Certified Neuro-Linguistic (NLP) Practitioner

  • Certificate in Humanistic Counselling

  • BSc Psychology

Logo for The Lazarus Consultancy featuring a stylized bent pencil or stylus and text.
Logo of The Gestalt Centre, featuring a stylized letter G in various shades of blue.
Middlesex University London logo with red shield featuring a crown and three wavy lines.
BABC Approved Certified badge in green text with brackets around 'BABC' and a green ribbon shape below with the word "Accredited".
Logo of Professional Standards Authority with a purple checkmark symbol and text indicating 'accredited register.'
Logo for INHC, a health coach organization, featuring a red spiral and black and red text inside a white circle with a red border.
University of Reading logo with shield and text.
Brunel University London logo with crest on the left and the university's name in bold blue letters on the right

 Begin Your Path to Self-Acceptance 

Cultivate Self-Compassion and Unlock New Possibilities

Start Your Journey